Have you ever wondered how you would be received if you were to return to therapy? I can tell you, probably with warmth and a welcome, especially if you had a good working relationship with your therapist. Ghosting can sometimes be a part of the process so we're generally used to it. But that doesn't mean we don't wonder about the rest of the story, what happened after you stopped coming to therapy, did you get that promotion? did you make that big move? did you propose to your significant other?
We are curious and hope you are doing great, but if you aren't, please contact your previous therapist (provided you found them helpful and were making progress) to make an appointment. We aren't going to judge (if there is judgement, maybe the therapist isn't the right one for you), we aren't going to chastise. We are going to be happy to see you. We are going to do our best to help you resolve what is getting in your way.
I talked with someone today. She is considering breaking up with her boyfriend. She described her life as being bad for the past year and a half and she has been with this guy for that length of time. Towards the end of the conversation she stated that she has tried to break up with him before. I asked what happened and she said that he started calling her a slut, on Facebook, by text etc. We discussed the block feature that is available on Facebook and on many phone plans or sometimes it might be necessary to change ones number. She understood.
What struck me though was the the implication that what got them back together was him calling her a slut. This is a very red flag in my opinion, name calling. It could be the start of an abusive relationship, or it could just be substance use in that moment, so bad judgement. Regardless, no one deserves that.
Sometimes it seems like it is just easier to stay with someone or to go back, but if it isn't the right relationship, it won't likely ever...
The first step is to decide if you want to use your insurance or pay on your own. The pros and cons to using insurance are that it might limit which therapists you can see but it is likely also to be less expensive. The best therapist for you may not take your insurance and information about you has to be provided to your insurance company in order for the therapist to be paid. The pros of paying on your own include having a better choice of therapists and having greater privacy. The con is that your cost might be higher than if you utilized your insurance.
If you decide to use your insurance, the next step is to find a therapist in your insurance network. The easiest way to do this is to go to your insurance's website and search for therapists in the area of your choice. I would encourage looking these therapists up online to determine if they would be a good fit. Therapists may have...
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